Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Sugar Bowl Crash

I had something else planned to write about today, but the events of life often change our plans. Of course this is about the devastating Sugar Bowl loss that was handed to the Razorbacks and the entire state of Arkansas last night. All around the state today people sit at their places of work and blankly stare at the walls with thoughts of what if?

What if Joe Adams could catch a football?

What if Mallet hadn't thrown the ball directly to a DE in the final seconds of the game?

What if the Hogs could tackle Pryor?

What if the defense had recovered that fumble on OSU's first drive?

What if the DB's batted down one of those TD passes when they were in great position?

What if the Hogs had picked up the blocked punt and scored?

This type of speculation will go on until next fall. That is the curse of losing a bowl game. Most people can't get that taste out of their mouth until another game is played. But I'm writing today because that's just not me anymore. I still love the Razorbacks way too much. I still got very mad and may or may not have screamed obscenities when Mallet threw that last interception. I had trouble getting to sleep last night, and the first thing I thought of this morning was the loss.

Then I saw my beautiful wife. I knew she hadn't slept well last night. She's had a headache for about 36 hours straight. She said she was really tired. At that time football meant nothing. Arica is pregnant with two special little babies. She is struggling with feeling bad a lot of the time. All I wanted to do was help her feel better. So I just sat there and rubbed her back for a few minutes.

Then Braden, who stayed with his Grandma last night, came home. He was happily jabbering on about everything. Then he gave me a big hug and any lingering feelings of loss and pain caused by the football game vanished completely.

Before getting married and having a kid a loss like this would linger for weeks. At totally unexpected times the pain of losing would shoot down my spine. It wouldn't take much to set off the mourning cycle all over again, but now I don't have time for that.

It is a great blessing to have things in my life much more important than a football game. Today things go right back to normal. My main focuses are to help out Arica as best I can and play with my little boy. Those things bring true and complete joy that easily overcomes the pain of watching a team of people I've never met lose a football game on TV.

Yes I'm still a big fan, and I was extremely upset about the loss. But this is the part where escaping the carefree days of youth is a good thing. Now I have grown up responsibilities. I have things to occupy my mind other than wondering why Petrino called a straight drop back pass on 4th and 1.

Life is full of blessings. One of those blessings is the ability to enjoy sporting competition by participating or  by watching. A greater blessing though is the ability to share the joy of victory and to totally forget about the agony of defeat with my family.


Katherine said...

I thought of you when I heard (read) about the loss. Almost emailed you to say I'm sorry they lost the game.

I'm glad you can find other things to drive away the pain of it. There's no fan like a Razorback fan, and I know many friends that are staring blankly at their computers today doing the "what-ifs."

I hope Arica starts feeling better soon. I remember the headaches I had just carrying Ethan. I can't imagine double the pain. I feel for her and you are such a great husband to try to ease her pain!

Brandy@YDK said...

It really is time-consuming having a child. but in a good way. you don't have time to dwell on stuff because life keeps going. babies keep growing.

Keith said...

Well, take heart that the Big 10 still sucks. :-) The SEC East sucks, too. But at least the west is holding up it's end of the deal so far (even though I'm a Big 12 guy myself.)

Yes, at the end of the day, no matter how much we root for a football team, our kids can instantly wipe away the momentary grief of a hard loss. Thank god for kids! HA

James (SeattleDad) said...

It's great that our kids can help us keep things in perspective. Sorry about the loss.

Melisa with one S said...

So sweet. You're a great husband and daddy.

Always Home and Uncool said...

This kind of thinking would not stand in Dillon, Texas, or with Coach Taylor, is all I'm saying.

Jack said...

You have the perfect attitude about all of this.

Brian Miller said...

life is full of blessings..beyond football...smiles.

SurprisedMom said...

As you've pointed out, Life if full of sweet blessings, namely your family. Having a family puts football into perspective, even for a diehard fan.

I hope Arica is feeling better. Carrying twins is so stressful on a body. That, and caring for a todler. Back rubs are such a wonderful thing and you are very thoughtful for providing them!