Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Cousins By Blood, Friends By Choice (I hope)

Nearly every child has friends built right into their family tree. These hopefully close friends are called cousins. At the very least you get to play with them a lot growing up. When you gather for family functions the cousins go off to play while the adults sit around and talk about the weather, politics, or whatever adults talk about.

Growing up I had two cousins, a boy and a girl, on my mom's side of the family.  We got together with Mom's family about once a month. In other words I saw these cousins all the time  The boy cousin was quite a bit older than me so we weren't that close. He used to pick on me too. That might be another reason we weren't that close.

The girl cousin was close to my age so we were friends early in life. As we grew older I took to sports and hunting. She took to shopping and other girlie pursuits. We grew apart fairly quickly.

I did have one cousin that was my good friend. My Dad's Brother had a son named Eric. I posted about him here a while back.  Eric and I grew up together on the farm. While our Dad's worked or more often discussed the best way to do the work, we played. There is no limit to how much fun little boys can have on the farm.

We promised to be best friends forever. Of course we grew apart too. I have seen him twice that I can remember in the last 10 years. Once was at our Grandpa's funeral. The other time was after Braden was born when his family came to my parents house to meet Braden and Arica.

During that visit we reminisced about the time we dissected a turtle. I had totally forgot about that and was quite impressed with my younger self upon remembering. We also remembered all the little things we built from junk we found, like the boats that we floated on the pond. It was fun to talk with my old friend.

I started thinking about cousins recently when I transferred a video of Braden and his cousin, Jackson, to my computer.  Jackson is about 2 years older than Braden, and belongs to Arica's brother.  At first Jackson didn't want to share his Grandma with Braden. That is to be expected. He eventually did warm up to Braden. They had plenty of opportunity to play together so I guess it was just a matter of time.

Here is the aforementioned video. Braden is pushing Jackson on a train. Yes, they are both wearing Batman pajamas. No, that was not planned. Yes, it is pretty cool anyway.

As you can see they are working on a friendship already. This has the potential of a special cousin bond that could last forever and provide a lot of great memories. I hope they get along and can be friends for a lifetime.

I think a lot of that might hinge on what Braden has to say once he starts talking.


Anonymous said...

Awwww, my favorite little boy and my second favorite little boy. The batman pj's are pretty awesome!

Melinda said...

I grew up very close to my cousins and over the years we've grown apart. I've rekindled a relationship with one and things are great!
My kids don't have cousins close in age to them so I'm sad they won't have the same relationships that I had growing up.

Christine said...

Very cool. I hope they're friends for a lifetime. I'm sorry you don't see your cousin more.

I was maid of honor at my cousin's wedding and both times I was pregnant, she was too! It's wonderful to have that shared history.

seashore subjects said...

Love the video! I always wished my cousins lived closer. That is probably why I am so glad my kids are with their cousins so much.

PJ Mullen said...

I love how he stops to pick up the remote. Classic.

I never lived anywhere near my cousins, so I unfortunately am not close to them. My brother has a son who is 15 months younger than mine and lives about a half hour away. I'm hoping that as they grow up they will be good friends.

surprised mom said...

I loved the video! How cute they are both wearing Batman pjs!I could write a book about when cousins are friends. I'm fortunate enough to be friends with my cousins, gals and guys, on my mom's side. There were 14 of us, 10girls, (the poor outnumbered guys!) and we had many adventures. Thanks for bringing back some wonderful memories.

Katherine said...

That's so cute! It makes me wish Ethan had some cousins to be friends with!

Jack said...

My cousins lived far away so I didn't get to spend much time with them. We have made a point with our kids to try to prevent that from happening.